tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post5169641810352640071..comments2023-12-23T00:50:44.532-08:00Comments on Booby and the Beast: How Could You Forgive Your Body for That?Booby and the Beasthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-50743733159175586352015-03-16T11:50:42.341-07:002015-03-16T11:50:42.341-07:00Thanks for commenting. My former therapist used to...Thanks for commenting. My former therapist used to say that exact same thing: "Why not you? Why anyone?" whenever I was tempted to assign blame. It had an incredible power to get me out of my own head and put things in perspective. Booby and the Beasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-63073355381072180082015-03-16T11:47:45.435-07:002015-03-16T11:47:45.435-07:00Oh, the world that would be if we could all think ...Oh, the world that would be if we could all think our metastases away! Booby and the Beasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-65229141898999883802015-03-16T11:45:59.296-07:002015-03-16T11:45:59.296-07:00What a wonderful perspective. Thanks for sharing, ...What a wonderful perspective. Thanks for sharing, Lisa. I'll go find your post now!Booby and the Beasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-66901467660651611682015-03-16T11:45:17.898-07:002015-03-16T11:45:17.898-07:00Nancy, I didn't even think of the perspective ...Nancy, I didn't even think of the perspective of those with the BRCA mutations, so thank YOU for giving me something to think about. But please don't blame yourself. (Although I agree that self-forgiveness can often be harder than forgiving others. Why is that?)Booby and the Beasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-35506874454658527562015-03-16T11:43:46.294-07:002015-03-16T11:43:46.294-07:00Thanks, Beth. Forgiveness isn't always easy, b...Thanks, Beth. Forgiveness isn't always easy, but it does lift a huge burden off our shoulders, doesn't it? xoBooby and the Beasthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01130302818680322634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-49438701472979306602015-02-15T20:03:31.635-08:002015-02-15T20:03:31.635-08:00Hi - Just came across your blog and thought this p...Hi - Just came across your blog and thought this post was interesting. I personally never blamed myself for my cancer. I think this is just "our luck," and nothing else. I don't think there is a super natural reason why this happened to me, or to you. So many people are getting cancer now, including children. I've never asked the question "why me" but rather "why not me?" I have a strong family history of cancer with no BRCA mutation but I do have a different mutation recently discovered called ATM which is linked to bc. I guess the way I see it is I have issues with mortality not cancer itself. If I was to accept mortality today, I think I would feel a bit more relaxed. It's not so much the fear of facing the disease, although that too can be scary, it's the fear of losing my life to it. But what makes me so special? I am not immortal. No of us is. So there is nothing I need to forgive myself for because we'll all walk that path some time. These are just the cards we've been dealt with - and everyone gets a set of cards, eventually. It's just that some people get them sooner than others. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-64435074945317214492015-02-10T21:42:44.677-08:002015-02-10T21:42:44.677-08:00Never ever blamed myself for cancer and never real...Never ever blamed myself for cancer and never really overly asked the question "why?" It won't change that I have it and it won't make it any less metastatic (wouldn't that be nice if it did?). I analyze other things to shreds though. Perfectly healthy. :)Mandihttp://www.darngoodlemonade.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-72008090053083742652015-02-10T19:33:01.043-08:002015-02-10T19:33:01.043-08:00Jen, I way over-analyze what people say to me too....Jen, I way over-analyze what people say to me too. It has annoyed my husband many times over the years. Thankfully, he is used to it now. I gave thought to this topic of loathing my body due to cancer in a blog post of mine called "Love Life" in August 2014. In the end, I decided I love the LIFE I have had in my body. Any negative feelings I may have toward it then become irrelevant.The Cancer Classroomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05167823624732091317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-56462227047977362652015-02-10T13:35:02.231-08:002015-02-10T13:35:02.231-08:00Hi Jen, Well, if truth be told, sometimes I do bla...Hi Jen, Well, if truth be told, sometimes I do blame myself. I have the darn brca2 mutation and I didn't find out until after my diagnosis. What if I had been tested earlier? I was in the thinking about it stage because I thought I still had time. My family history is complicated... Cancer is not your fault and it's not my fault either. But still, the questions pop in now and then. Things we can control and things we cannot - so important to distinguish between the two. Self-forgiveness can be harder than forgiving others don't you think? And your mom seems lovely. I'm sure she isn't criticizing you for not working. I think it's natural to think our moms are judging us when in fact they aren't. Well, not ads often as we think they are anyway. Thanks for the post. As always, you give me much to think about.Nancy's Pointhttp://www.nancyspoint.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7238780007621149539.post-35069893666736851192015-02-10T08:12:55.524-08:002015-02-10T08:12:55.524-08:00What a great post! I agree that cancer isn't o...What a great post! I agree that cancer isn't our faults, and having cancer wasn't your fault. It just happens -- randomly -- to a lot of people unfortunately. I have forgiven people since cancer, and for me, it's been liberating. Beth Gainerhttp://www.bethgainer.comnoreply@blogger.com